Happily Ever After

By Natasha Sherman

Have you ever wondered why certain people have extraordinarily fulfilling careers and lives? How does that happen? Sometimes it may just be plain luck. However, more often than not, it doesn’t happen simply because they got lucky or hoped for it or wished it. It typically happens because they are intentional and focused. It happens because they plan, they are committed to continually developing themselves, and they design effective actions. It happens because they are continuously learning to shift and adjust. And probably most importantly, they learn to communicate powerfully and effectively so they produce the results they want.

Great results typically do not happen by accident. Marriage is the same. We start out having powerful feelings for our partner and we are wholeheartedly committed to a great life with them. Commonly, because we have such strong feelings for one another, we assume and hope it will all work out and that it will even somewhat take care of itself.

Love is the foundation, the structure on which everything else gets built. But just like erecting a building, a strong foundation is just the beginning. Everything that comes after that is equally important and vital.

One of the best ways to create a successful enduring relationship is with intention and “by design.” Building a life together can be the most joyful experience of your lifetime. One of the ways to ensure that experience is to start with some skilled guided conversations and inquiry so that you begin to develop and grow a profound “workability” – in your understanding of each other, in how to best support one another and in how to bring out the best in each other. You co-create a vitally fulfilling future for both of you even through adversity. For the most part, that does not happen by chance. Your life partnership is profound and requires skilled nurturing and tending to. These are learnable skills and the rewards for learning them are priceless.

“I am a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work the more I have of it.”
Thomas Jefferson   


Natasha Sherman is a Life Success Coach and television host on Princeton Community Television.

Divorce/Separation/Life Transitions Coach
“Live by Design/Not by Default™”


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